We love to compare ourselves to other people…our neighbors, our peers, our friends..even our family members. And, our culture not only makes it easy to do so..it encourages it. For instance, how much time do you spend surfing other people’s Instagram or Facebook feeds?
Now tell me, how do you end up feeling after you do so? Inspired and motivated? Or discouraged and depressed?
Here’s the potential problem with comparing yourself to others. When we compare, we compare our ‘current’ with someone else’s ‘best’. So on a particular day, you may compare how you look to models in a magazine. At another point, you could compare your current job to your peer that just got promoted. Yet another day, you could be comparing your dancing skills with a top notch instructor.
Do you see the problem with this? You are comparing your current status with the ‘highlights’ of everyone else’s. How is that productive, fair or useful in any way?
Another problem? You are perceiving other people’s success as ‘overnight success’. What you’re mostly exposed to is the resulting outcomes of their work…not the hours, days, weeks and months of hard work spent getting there.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I believe in the power of community. Surrounding yourself with go-getters and successful people can be a great source of inspiration and motivation…pushing you to elevate your life and achieve even more success.
But, there is a fine line. And it’s important to not only know where to draw it…but to correctly identify what side of the line you are on.
If you’re struggling with feeling bad about yourself all the time, you need to make a shift. The solution? Stop the comparisons. Run your own race. This is your life. Go for better than yesterday. Go for better than you were before. Take any one and every one else out of the picture.
It’s you vs. YOU.
Pooja Dang is a Life Coach specializing in helping her clients to design and build the life they love with the help of customized coaching sessions and straight up, no nonsense advice. Are YOU ready to reinvent yourself? Let’s get started!