The One Word You Need to Take Into 2024.
There isn’t a word more fear-inducing than the two-letter one we try to avoid saying. No. When it comes to refusal, boundaries, and, quite frankly, the truth of what we have time for and what we sincerely want, it can still feel like a slap in the face when we say it. It brings up […]
Is Everyone an Idiot?
As a coach, there are three little words that come along every once in a while that tell me a client has to make a change. You might’ve heard it, thought it or even said it yourself. “Everyone’s an idiot!” To that I say, you’ve got two options. CHANGE YOUR ENVIRONMENT If – when you […]
The Scariest Fear You Should Have
There’s a lot of fear and hesitancy that can come with big changes, risks and dreams. The reality is, if we try for something, we might not get it. We might not get the job. We might not get the promotion. We might not meet our goal. We might not earn the bigger salary. We […]
You Can Hate Your Job, But Don’t Keep Hating It.
If you won’t pivot, you can’t win. A longtime client of mine proved this recently. Tammy took a contract role at a great company with the opportunity of it turning into a full-time position. She was excited! She was ready! She was willing! But she hated it. The company didn’t follow through on the discussions […]
What Would a More Empathetic World Look Like?
On a recent trip home to India, I was helping my Dad with something on his computer. He’s older now and not as quick, so he instantly started apologizing over and over again for not getting it, for taking up my time and for bothering me with “this kind of thing”. I would’ve taken all […]
When Men Are in the Room, Take Notes.
If you’re not sure what the difference is between men and women, go eavesdrop. Sit at a cafe or a restaurant. Walk around at the gym or in a park. Listen in on board meetings or zooms. You might pick up on something. Men talk about their strengths. They walk around waiting for a […]
How Long? As Long as it Takes
Consistency. We’ve all heard of it. We could all explain what it is. We all know we can’t be successful without it. So, why is it so fucking hard to be consistent? From my perspective, impatience is our downfall. We’re ready with the effort, but when we don’t see it paying off fast enough, we […]
The Reason You’re Not Growing
I’ve coached a few perfectionists over the years. Okay, more than a few. Many of them think it’s what’s responsible for their success and what got them to where they are. And they’re not wrong, but they’re not entirely right either. They think perfectionism is simply an adherence to high standards when perfectionism is often […]
The BEST Manager Syncs
Raise your hand if performance reviews make you sweat. If you’re like most of my clients, your hand went straight up and I know why. All too often, they’re tough, uncomfortable conversations where both parties are trying to swallow the tough pill of feedback while not wanting to rock the boat or come across too […]
Are you Bossy?
Women in the workplace (especially as they move up the ranks) commonly face what’s known as the double-bind. If we are assertive and take charge, we are viewed as competent but often not liked. If we gravitate toward being more nurturing and communicative, we’re liked but viewed as less competent. WTF? Apparently no one got […]