The Golden Rule to Help Guide Your Next Decision.
When people show you who they are, believe them. I say it all the time, but I find, especially as women, that we want to give people the eternal benefit of the doubt and second, third and fourth chances. There is no end to the evidence and yet we still want to believe the best. […]
Are you future-proofed?
This past summer, Seana noticed her manager and skip level seemed to be doing very little to promote the work that they were responsible for. Instead of panicking or just trusting that he had her back, she realized that she had to step up and take ownership of her situation or find herself on the […]
Since When Did Little Dreams Change the World?
The other day, a female business owner said to me, “I don’t need to be crazy rich, just comfortable enough.” I almost blew a gasket. Why not rich? Why not filthy fucking rich? And, hey, it’s her thing if she just wants to make however much, but I could hear the resignation in her voice. […]
The Book That Shifted My Perspective
If you haven’t read Oliver Burkeman’s book, “Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals”, let me summarize it for you (and before you think this is a shake-you-by-the-shoulders “You Only Live Once!” post, hear me out!) 4,000 weeks is about the average lifespan of a human. Which is not a lot of time. Staring straight […]
The Way Out of the Likeability Trap
Ask most women what they’re job is and they’ll give you the same answer. To be liked. To be affable and pleasant and approachable is our full-time, round-the-clock, no-off-switch kind of job that’s baked into every single position regardless of how high up we are. The pressure to please is ingrained, and we all feel […]
Are You Missing the Obvious?
A few weeks ago, I asked my doctor to give my right foot a check. It’s been hurting for a couple of months, but without anything noticeable happening to it. I didn’t hit it, bump it or drop anything on it. She ordered an x-ray, but nothing conclusive came back. A week later, I mentioned […]
Go FAIL
Crack open the book, “Juggling for the Complete Klutz” and you’ll be surprised at step one. It’s not a hot tip on hand-eye coordination. It’s not showing you how to stand or where to put your hands. It’s not even how to get one ball up and in the air. Step one is to throw […]
The Best Thing That Ever Happened to You
We flop on a project. We don’t give a great interview. We get fired. Things happen. And at the time, they’re big! They’re impactful and painful and disappointing. No doubt about it. But hindsight is 20/20. We often look back at these same things with a new lens and think, Whew! Dodged that one! Good […]
Why Being Consistently Good is Better than being Intermittently Excellent
We’re taught to be the best we can be, to be A+, and at the top of our game. And it sounds like great advice, but what happens when you go full tilt with high performance all the time? You risk burnout. Going too hard for too long has a price. I say save your […]
The Story You Tell Determines the Life You Lead.
When you first meet someone, what’s the story you tell them? Do you share what you do and how much you work? How busy, overwhelmed or exhausted you are? How overtime is killing you right now? Do you share what you’ve been meaning to start? How long you’ve been trying to get it going? […]