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When Men Are in the Room, Take Notes.

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If you’re not sure what the difference is between men and women, go eavesdrop.

  • Sit at a cafe or a restaurant.
  • Walk around at the gym or in a park.
  • Listen in on board meetings or zooms.


You might pick up on something.

Men talk about their strengths.

They walk around waiting for a high-five.

They act deserving and expectant of rewards.

They tend to stand up for themselves.

They speak confidently even if they aren’t.

They’re happy with a healthy standard.

Women bond over their weaknesses.

They shush or wave away encouragement or endorsements.

They constantly wonder if they’re doing a good job.

They run to the defense of others before themselves.

They aim to be nice and relatable, not threatening.

They imagine and reach for an impossible standard.

Are these broad strokes?

Of course.

But even if this were true half the time, it says something we need to pay attention to.

Am I suggesting we be more like men?


I’m suggesting we act like the women we already are.

We need to break out of these cliches, stereotypes, and templates of womanhood and embody the confidence men are already naturally operating it.

Can you imagine what would happen if women:

  • Showed their superpowers on full display?
  • Started taking compliments with easy self-assurance?
  • Soaked up promotions, rewards, and high-fives like it was just another day at the office?
  • Stood tall and spoke from their strengths?


We would change the world.

Not by being more like men, but by stepping up as women.


I’ve negotiated better deals, more money, and higher leadership positions for executive women for over a decade.

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Pooja Dang is a Women’s Executive Leadership Coach based in the San Francisco Bay Area, serving clients globally at companies such as Google, GoPro, Dropbox, and more. With over 15 years of experience in coaching, advising, and propelling women towards rapid career advancement and promotion, she specializes in high-impact workshops and dynamic 1:1 coaching, delivering breakthrough outcomes and accelerated change. Pooja has a proven track record of coaching women into the C-suite and is a trusted expert in growing executive presence, expanding influence, high-stakes negotiations, and leadership development. Using proven scientific strategies, transformative behavior tools, and a no-BS approach, Pooja is on a mission to empower more women to live confidently at the top of their game. Book your free consultation today. #ExecutiveCoach #LeadershipDevelopment #WomenInLeadership #BehaviorChange #CsuiteCoaching


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